Just Give Me A Minute!

A Time for Everything

There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven—

A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.

What profit is there to the worker from that in which he toils? 10 I have seen the task which God has given the sons of men with which to occupy themselves.

If this is true, and I believe it is, why are there so many “times” when I just need one more minute?

What happens to my day between lunch and WHAT? How can it be time for dinner?

How can my awesome plan to have the house all picked up before Michael comes home end up with Michael coming home early? Wait! He’s not early, time disappeared somewhere.

Then there are all the times I’ve told my kids I’ll listen to what they have to say, look at their project, check their math . . . . in just a minute.

I can’t tell you how many mornings it’s time to start school and I’m not ready.

Why can’t the Bible have more detail on how to manage your time? Just a list of things to do each day with a time for each of them would be really helpful wouldn’t it? Except for the part about not even being able to follow the love God, love your neighbor commandments but somehow I think I’d follow a detailed plan for the day. ha!

I’d also really like to know if there’s supposed to be a time to sew together why don’t I ever get to sew! (That’s a joke for the literal folks to miss)

I’m amazed at a Creator who gives us such freedom and loves us to death and yet reminds us that He has a time and season for everything. What does that mean for all of my “Just Give Me A Minutes” to my family or running late for an appointment or friendship?

That’s alot of questions when you’re probably looking for answers but you probably won’t like the answer any better than I do. We all know it’s the truth but still  . . . . it’s hard to be the grown up in a world of children.

I have a timer that wakes me up at 5:30 am every morning (I clarified the am for those of you who might mistake that for pm) then I have a pattern I follow for the things that need to get done by 6:30 when Michael leaves for work. The next timer goes off at 7am when I have to wake up the kids who haven’t already left for work. Honestly, I snooze that a time or two some mornings but I always regret it! This works so great you think I’d have a series of timers through out the day but I just don’t want to be that timed!

I don’t have to remember what time lunch is because I have a 16 year old boy and they are equipped with a 30 minute warning/reminder that lunch is at noon. You know 8 am and you’ve just finished breakfast so they want to know what’s for lunch, 8:30 they want to know if you have everything you need for lunch, 9 am did you take it out of the freezer, 9:30 should the bread go in the oven, 10 am do you need help getting lunch ready  . . . . I think two hours is plenty of time to get the already made salad on the plates by noon!

There is a get ready for bed timer at 8 pm for the little people who can’t remember to brush their teeth and such but what about all those appointed times in the middle?

Probably like your day we don’t do the exact same thing every single day so it’s hard to “timer” all those things and I don’t want to miss out on the sweet moments during the day that you can’t plan for by being over timed, BUT I want to get everything done in a day that I planned, which in 28 years of parenting has never, never, never happened. Yet I still want that? Like today I need to make a practice wedding cake with various flavors for my daughter to try this weekend. I need to spend 24 hours in the yard just for starters, do school, make the usual three meals a day, lesson plan for the next school year, clean the hangar clean the loft . . . . that’s it. oh and it’s laundry day.

Some timers really help me and it is incredibly helpful to be up and going before everyone else in the “school” zone of our family is moving. One of the few memorable lessons I had while in college learning to be a teacher was that the first person to the classroom owned it and was in charge for the day. It wasn’t always like that when we started out homeschooling. Some mornings my 5 year old would bring his school work to me while I was still in bed because he didn’t understand it and I’d tell him it was because it was 7:30 and you couldn’t understand math until later in the day. Now, I own the house and we have this great morning pattern that isn’t dependent on timers as much as processes.

Can you appoint all of the minutes in a day with a family and be sane? I don’t see how but you can follow some patterns each day that give it a happy rhythm that everyone knows, which gets the work done and lets everyone know where the free time to play goes. While my mom was working with Preschoolers with disabilities she taught me that the consistent schedule helps kids move from task to task easier. They know what’s coming next and even though they can’t tell time they can start, finish and move on to the next task by themselves. I think the first time my kids all learn is 12:00 – it’s lunch!

All the time I’ve been homeschooling I’ve had a vice that holds me back from getting the job done on time or accomplishing the things I know are important in our families day. It’s a different vice through the seasons. Romance novels turned into lesson planning (seriously when I found excel this was a vice and I still prefer planning to doing) iphone aps – now that’s seriously stupid of me and I’m thinking a blog could end up being a vice if I’m not careful.

Don’t hear what I’m not saying! We all need breaks and a time to relax but not every 15 minutes once our game ap has reloaded with more lives. However, in the fullness of time, at the appointed time when the job should be done we should get it done.

So tomorrow, I’m going to stay on task, work my plan and I won’t need to say “Just give me a minute!”  If you’re thinking, “In your dreams.” you’d be wrong because it’s in the planning and choosing that things really happen not in your dreams 🙂 The amount of work I get done now compared to 25 years ago is tremendous because with my husbands, process improvement, Dr. Demming, ISO 2000 and other business models that he taught us to use at home we’re better at staying on task but sometimes need a reboot. For me that’s tomorrow – no games – so there’s time for everything.

The answer is stop playing games and being lazy Sue!